Prevention is key because, unfortunately, when we take action, the bullying has already happened. The KiVa program provides lessons and activities throughout the entire year that put a lot of emphasis on developing social and emotional skills such as values and the importance of sharing responsibility. For example, if you witness a dispute, it's your responsibility to help the person who is being mistreated. These lessons help to change attitudes and group dynamics.
All children are different, so it's the parents who are more likely to know if their child is anxious or not. But normally, we could say that there is some change in behavior. For example, it may be cause for concern if your daughter usually loves going to school, but then suddenly doesn't. She may start to lose or break things, or look like she's been having accidents. This could be a sign that something's wrong, but it doesn't always mean bullying is involved. It's a warning sign that you should start to investigate.
It is very important to talk to your children. They might deny they're being bullied because they're afraid or embarrassed and don't want to talk about it. However, it's vital that parents demonstrate that they are fully, 100% on their side. You have to tell them that bullying is never their fault, because they might think they are at fault. Nothing justifies bullying. You can practice the types of situations when these types of things happen. You might do this in front of a mirror. You can also work on how to say "no" assertively.