Positive language helps you realize that a certain response is inappropriate before you give it and then have to take measures to rectify the situation, such as saying sorry. That's what positive language does. It's not about being overly tolerant. It's just about time. We are time and attention. We are born, grow up and die, during which time we give our attention to certain things in life. What we have to do is rethink how to use words and language. This means oral and written language, as well as the language of gestures. Language can help us build the positive life story we want.
A sense of humor is essential. There's no point being too dramatic. You don't have to be taught how to do this, it's just a simple learning process. It's a question of learning together. I learn to be brave as a teacher and parent, and I can also learn to be brave as a student.
Children learn math, physics, chemistry, biology, and new technology. However, they're not taught how to use language. That's because we don't recognize how important language is, as we already know how to use it.