Everything that is related to listening generates good conversations. if we want to change the world we live in, we need to change the types of conversations we have. We need to have kinder conversations, both with others and ourselves. However, in order to do this, we have to learn how to listen. And this means learning how to remain silent. Listening should be something we do every day. With children, this is especially important as it means we have to actually sit down and listen to them. Actively listen to and engage with them. It's important to give children this quality time, so they feel they're the center of attention. And that's what we achieve when we remove distractions. For example, when it's dinner time, turn off the TV. Don't allow cell phones at the table, so there are no interruptions and you can focus on communicating and taking time to have a conversation.
You have to learn to say no. Human beings are social animals who live in a society. Therefore, we have to learn to live together with certain restrictions and we need to learn what these restrictions are at home. Parents have to set boundaries, even though doing so might be difficult and painful. We are doing ourselves a disservice if do not set limits. There have to be boundaries as regards values and other areas deemed to be important. A good education is based on giving people freedom and space to make their own decisions and to be creative, within certain limits.
We all have insecurities. Absolutely all of us have insecurities, but you notice them more in some people than in others depending on how hard they've worked to overcome them. First, you have to accept your insecurities, as denial is the main problem when it comes to education. A way to do this is to use your insecurities as a tool to help you learn.
Anyone who has children knows that they are born with creativity. If you give them a pen and paper (or something similar made for young children), they'll start to scribble on it. Creativity is inherent to human beings, so it is a pity that we sometimes repress it. How can parents encourage creativity? Creativity arises when two types of thought processes combine. The first is the type of focused thinking we use to solve a problem, which requires concentration and hard work. The second is diffused thinking, which is what we do when we let our minds wander and start to create new neural connections we had not thought possible. However, in order to be creative, you have to be able to think in both a focused and diffused way at the same time. Of course, children have to learn to be able to work hard and focus on what they're doing, but parents should also provide their children with the space they need to let their imaginations and creativity run free.