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I truly believe from my own experience that we have to try to help our children develop in any way we can. After graduating, I was fortunate enough to learn this idea from certain role models. Therefore, I firmly believe that there is a solution for the future because I was able to find one. As I found a solution, I feel it is my duty in life to help others do likewise.
It upsets me when I ask parents, "what do you want for your child?", and they reply, "for them to be happy". I often say that I don't want my daughters to be happy, because happiness, which comes from pleasure, involves dopamine. Dopamine is addictive. This means that, whereas one day you can be happy with a certain amount of dopamine, the next day you will need a bit more, and then a bit more the day after. Happiness should be a quest, not a state. Therefore, as a parent, by overprotecting your children to the extreme so they can be happy, you're fueling a pipe dream that can never be achieved. What we really need to do is to learn to choose the right emotion for the right circumstance. Our children have to experience all emotions, including joy, fear, anger, sadness. And this cannot be taught with words. It has to come from the heart. And you can't teach from the heart by focusing on notes. Education in the twenty-first century, as described by Gerver, or as discussed by many others, requires learning how to be rather than how to acquire knowledge.