Adam Alter

Psychologist and teacher

"The children consider interesting that to what your parents provide attention".

The dangers of the mobile devices

All have the same system: the same anatomy, brains practically identical, our reactions are practically similar; same rewards, same signs, same explosives… So all have the same «risk», if want call it thus. All are susceptible. The above-mentioned this, much of all is structural. That is, if is created an universe in which all your friends are in a device and waiting that reply to the second thirty, you also be there. So, just as is structured the society right now, is particularly dangerous for adolescents and preteens, because the majority of your social interactions happen online. In almost everybody, waiting of they that are connected, in front of the cell phone, smart for reply, prepared to interact with people… Basically, since go out of the school until turn in. All that leisure time, the only one that have during the week, it occupy with the cell phone. And this is a factor structural, that's the way it is as live all. If this changed, the young people go out more, play more, do other things that are positive for them. But is dangerous because, just as has advanced your world, not can distance of the screen with the same facility that the adults, because our lives not turn so much around the cell phone, above all to level social.

The first thing that is necessary to do is watch the time of use. If see that your son uses the cell phone or any other device during several hours a day, can monitor it for know how much. I not it do under wraps, without the boy or the teenager it knows, but would say you: «Go to see how long invest, to see what happens». Give lesson to adolescents in summer and some use until ten hours daily in front of the screen. Not know nor of where take out the time, not understand how can live thus and do the other things necessary, but if are father, is something that deserves the penalty know. So the first thing is, find out how long uses. The advantage of these applications is that also can know what do during that time. But what is essential is have with your son or daughter a conversation, once is clear what does, above all if has the age enough for have it, and say him: «With how long you constitute? Go to find a balance. Can be a minor problem that works out talking it, and can learn to manage it… But can be a serious problem until the point in which the boy not is able to comply with your obligations, feels overwhelmed for all that you surrounds, since not usually have the occasion of take care of all what is out of the screen… Arrived that point, in the more severe cases, at least in The United States and in parts from Europe, the people comes to centers of treatment specific. Still are something very recent, your effectiveness is questionable also, some seem work better that other. Not there is a method proven and definite for deal this addiction for now. Is very low the percentage of children that it need. But this be the order of the steps: time of use, what happens in that time, talk with the boy for try arrive to a solution and, if not works, talk with a specialist in the issue.

The children consider interesting that to what your parents provide attention. So, if you provide attention to a screen, your son think that is very interesting; if provide attention to a book, the boy want know what is there. Is what is that captures your attention, your son it consider interesting. Thus learn. Admire to your parents, above all when are smaller, and want know what are interested in to your parents for interest they also. The children from very early age provide attention to what do. Believe that is very important that the parents, when is children in front, leave aside the screens, as want that did your son in those moments. If you seems good that your son watches at all times the screen, can do it. If is some moment where not want that watches the cell phone, have to fulfill exactly the same norm. Because that you use the cell phone, is the same thing that if it uses he or she, and this promotes the same one comportamiento.Lo first that is necessary to do is watch the time of use. If see that your son uses the cell phone or any other device during several hours a day, can monitor it for know how much. I not it do under wraps, without the boy or the teenager it knows, but would say you: «Go to see how long invest, to see what happens». Give lesson to adolescents in summer and some use until ten hours daily in front of the screen. Not know nor of where take out the time, not understand how can live thus and do the other things necessary, but if are father, is something that deserves the penalty know. So the first thing is, find out how long uses. The advantage of these applications is that also can know what do during that time. But what is essential is have with your son or daughter a conversation, once is clear what does, above all if has the age enough for have it, and say him: «With how long you constitute? Go to find a balance. Can be a minor problem that works out talking it, and can learn to manage it… But can be a serious problem until the point in which the boy not is able to comply with your obligations, feels overwhelmed for all that you surrounds, since not usually have the occasion of take care of all what is out of the screen… Arrived that point, in the more severe cases, at least in The United States and in parts from Europe, the people comes to centers of treatment specific. Still are something very recent, your effectiveness is questionable also, some seem work better that other. Not there is a method proven and definite for deal this addiction for now. Is very low the percentage of children that it need. But this be the order of the steps: time of use, what happens in that time, talk with the boy for try arrive to a solution and, if not works, talk with a specialist in the issue.

Our nature better people, of learn to behave in society, is proving things, a process of essay-error. If you remove the toy to another boy, the boy us gives a manotazo and us says: «Not me remove my toy». Thus learn what works and what not. Learn that, if you say something ugly to a boy, cries, and that you do feel ill. The only way of learn it is having an immediate reply to our acts, and that happens face-to-face. Behind a screen, where have hundreds of thousands of people, friends and people to the one which really not know, your acts, when remark, when write, when say or do things, are very far removed of the consequences. As a consequence, not live that process of essay-error, not learn so hastily.

Is very easy that the life online is harmful for the well-being of a boy. Given that the people in Internet makes up your life, in the end, what happens is that only publishes the best one five per cent real-world and the other ninety-five per cent stays hidden. If are a boy and believe that Internet is a reflex require how live the rest of them, if just have seen the best thing, start to think that your life is fewer interesting, more worldly, that not is so rich as that one of other people. Is very harmful because entered a bucle constant of compare us and of question us our life.

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Biography
Adam Alter is psychologist and teacher of the department of psychology of the NYU . Author of the book 'Irresistible', in which in a simple way and through examples, analyzes the use that do of the cell phones and other products technological that achieve trap our attention.
FAQs
Who owe see about interrupt possible dependency problems that generate the mobile devices?

Is something very human search someone who blame, and makes sense, in this case, because this way know where intervene. Have self-control and free will to some extent, not owe auto-control us solitos? Believe that the government, in a way, yes. The consumers, not so much; are in one tesitura complicated. The developer ones, the designers of the platforms, the smartphones, the devices that us show those applications, games and programs… All of them it admit, had a period in which said: «Not know what are doing», and did a bit the madmen, the same as it made the tobacco companies in the fifty and the sixty, that said: «The effects not know for that matter and believe that not is problem». But now already have sufficient evidences for, at least, suggest that this is a problem that is necessary to investigate in great depth. Additionally know that the people that works in these companies is aware of the problem, for many years. That people, undoubtedly, is the person in charge, because knew what did and not had no precaution.

"Leave aside the smartphone a part of the day is a good way of recover the humanity that us have doffed these devices".


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